walk down the aisle is a shining moment in your wedding. All eyes will
be on you; your guests may even stand up to honor you as you proceed
down the aisle. You will truly be in the spotlight! It is for this
reason that selecting a partner to walk down with you is important.
Your partner will share in your pride and happiness. It is a very
special duty, and choosing a partner can be difficult if you have many
choices among your friends and family.
Traditionally, the bride’s father walks her down the aisle. But what
if you have two Dad’s, a biological father, and a step Dad? There are
several options. One, have both Dad’s escort you. Or if you are closer
to one Dad than the other, go with the one whom you are more
comfortable with. Talk to “your two Dad’s.” Maybe one of them would be
willing to walk you down the aisle, and let the other do some other
important thing such as make the first toast at the reception. If you
feel that one or both of them will be upset at these suggestions, you
may just want to skip having a partner and walk down the aisle by
Another choice is to be escorted by both of your parents. Again, if
you have a blended family, consider how you feel about each person and
discuss this with all of them. You certainly don’t want to hurt
anyone’s feelings or leave anyone out, and there are plenty of special
duties to be done at a wedding. Making everyone feel included in some
way is the main goal. It does not matter who does what, so long as you
are satisfied with the arrangements. A nice thing to do, to honor
those important people at the ceremony, is to hand a flower to each of
them when you reach the end of the aisle. This will make them stand
out, and symbolizes their importance to you.
Parents are not the only ones who can walk with you! Perhaps you
really want your sister to escort you, or even a bother, cousin, or a
close friend. It does not matter if they are male or female, old or
young, or even if you walk alone.
Is this your second marriage, and you have children old enough to
accept this duty? Then by all means, allow your son or daughter to
What matters is how you feel about it and what you want. In today’s
world, it is acceptable to do pretty much anything that you want to
make your wedding personal and unique, so do not worry about “going by
the book” in terms of finding a partner to walk with.